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Thursday, March 23, 2006

with freedom comes responibility Current mood: hopeful I want to just put very embryonic thoughts up for grabs here. I want to make a case that sex is not only a private issue, but a public one. Actually, that is already true. Sex is an incredibly public thing. Billboards, TV shows, movies, etc. The typical cultural avenues. You don't have to look hard to see a public display of a sexual act or something appealing to your sexual desires. We are not afraid to show our bodies in a sexually provocative way, in fact we get some sense of self-worth from that. So public is not the correct word, it should probably be that sex is not only private and public, but communal. Meaning that it has some purpose in society and therefore there needs to be a common language so that we can talk about what we are doing with our bodies. So, that being said, I will begin with some common thoughts about sex. "It is an act between two consenting adults" whatever they choose is their choice. Or the mindset that allows for "free sex", where there are no strings attached whatsoever, it's just an action, done for pleasure and that is someone's right and should not be dictated by anything but their own decision. "my sexual life is none of your business" Here is my problem with this line of thinking. This attempts to separate sex from pro-creation. Now I understand the world has changed and there are now several things that actually attempt and are very successful at separating sex from pro-creation and giving the green light for pleasure to abound. But even with birth control and contraceptives, I do not think that just because there are several preventions to it, you can separate it from it's natural and intended result of reproduction. So here goes the argument in the rawest form possible. Ok, I was recently speaking with a doctor who was telling me that ADD and Austism are becoming epidemics among young people today. I asked him what was the main factor behind this and his response was, "parenting". Upon further explanation, he stated parents play a huge role in the development of children and children with good parenting can and do overcome many of the initial hinderances of ADD and Austism at an early age. I have a friend who teaches autistic children who are non-verbal and very "behind" for their age and disability and they almost all come from broken homes where the mother/father is struggling to make ends meet. The doctor truly believes if there situation was better at home, the disability would be less severe. (NOTE: this is not a blanket statement and there are other factors in this specific example such as poverty, which we also need to become more responsible with our spoils from capitialism) Single parent families are increasing drastically and starting at much younger ages. Now these children, the future generations of our world, are growing up in less than perfect situations. Two consenting adults now breaks down to one "in over their head" adult. Having a child drastically changes your lifestyle, so now this parent has a much harder road to finding a complimentary job and continuing education. He/She consented for pleasure and bailed on the responsibility. Do I think that two parent families are better in all cases, not necessarily and even no in some cases, but I think you can agree that this is not an ideal situation for a child's development. However, I do think it is part of the design of this world for two parent families. I don't know how many of you have friends in the school district, but teachers are getting burned out and quitting their jobs like crazy. Many citing they can't handle the students anymore. That, b/c so many home lifes are so crazy, despite their best efforts, they can't reach the student. They would have to quit their job and devote their lives to this family to really make a difference. I personally think we are heading for a crisis in our schools and education and more than likely a desperate shortage for quality teachers who care. Where does this leave our future generation? With freedom comes responsibility. If there are truly these social outcomes to the act of sex, b/c sex is linked to procreation, then we must become accountable for what we do with our bodies. If a sexual act cause a child to be born and live a childhood that does not foster his develpment and then is put in a classroom where the child does not flurish and disrupts and this affects other kids and teachers, then I think we can no longer say that "sex is none of your business" and " we are consenting adults". Yeah you are both consenting on the fact that you really like the pleasure of sex, but you have no concern for the responsibility of procreation. I'm sorry abortion as an answer falls short as well, since abortion involves human life, feelings and pysche. We have all bought into the fact that sex is mere pleasure and is the pinnacle and defining moment of our relationships, but I think we must get rid of this mentality and view sex as procreation and be thankful that the Creator designed this incredible gift of creating life to be involved with much pleasure. It is a gift with a design and we abuse these sorts of things all the time. (just watch the news and tell me we as humans don't do this) This is very limited and much easier to articulate in person. But perhaps it will get us thinking Feel free to comment.